Summary: Wes Kao reflects on the negative effects of constantly comparing oneself to others and how it can trap you in a never-ending rat race. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing your own achievements and choosing to celebrate your progress instead of focusing on perceived shortcomings. By shifting your perspective, you can break the cycle of competition and appreciate who you are already becoming.
when you’re overly focused on the negative, you develop a warped view of your abilities. You become under-confident compared to your actual skills. This negatively impacts the way you communicate with others, the way you advocate for your ideas, and how willing you are to make bold moves. (View Highlight)
focusing on ways that you are already doing well, already winning, already doing great, is a way to have a more ACCURATE view of your situation. When you are overly anchored on the negative, you need to reset by swinging the pendulum to be overly positive to have a chance at landing someplace neutral. (View Highlight)