The Victim Trap of Engineering Managers - Readwise Highlights
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- Author: Anton Zaides - Must Read Engineering Management Books
- Full Title: The Victim Trap of Engineering Managers
- Category: articles
- Summary: The author describes falling into the “Drama Triangle,” where he felt like a victim due to a PM’s overpromising behavior. He explains the roles in this triangle: Victim, Villain, and Hero, and how they can trap managers in a cycle of blame and frustration. To escape this mindset, he suggests focusing on outcomes, understanding others’ perspectives, and taking ownership instead of complaining.
- URL: https://zaidesanton.substack.com/p/the-victim-engineering-manager
Highlights
- One of the fundamental differences between the Victim orientation and the Creator one is where you put the focus of your attention. For Victims, the focus is always on what they don’t want: the problems that seem constantly to multiply in their lives. They don’t want the person, condition, or circumstance they consider to be their villain. Creators, on the other hand, place their focus on what they DO want. Doing this, Creators still face and solve problems in the course of creating the outcomes they want. (View Highlight)