Work Enemies: Actions You Can Take to Protect Yourself From Bad Relationships

Metadata

  • Author: Dave Anderson
  • Full Title: Work Enemies: Actions You Can Take to Protect Yourself From Bad Relationships
  • Category:articles
  • Summary: It’s common to have conflicts with co-workers or managers at work. To improve these relationships, focus on having fact-based discussions rather than getting caught in opinions or complaints. Building connections and communicating your accomplishments can help counter negative perceptions and enhance your professional image.
  • URL: https://www.scarletink.com/p/work-enemies-protect-yourself-bad-relationships

Highlights

  • If you talk in public, you (and them) are less likely to say unprofessional / rude things. And people will observe you being polite, which will help preserve your reputation. (View Highlight)
  • If you similarly set expectations and receive requests in public, you’re less likely to have purposeful or accidental wires crossed. (View Highlight)
  • Keeping your conversations in the open is your best defense against misinformation. (View Highlight)
  • Once you get on someone’s bad side, it’s easy for them to see everything you’re doing as not good enough. (View Highlight)
  • If you can help them remove their lens by insisting on a fact-based discussion, you have a shot of communicating better. I’ve seen poor relationships improve dramatically once they insisted on communicating with data. (View Highlight)
  • If you’re at odds with someone else, you don’t beat them by complaining about them behind their back. (View Highlight)
  • The worst thing you can do when someone is bad-mouthing you, is to engage with bad-mouthing as well. Your goal instead should be to make going low one-sided. (View Highlight)
  • You absolutely don’t teach your manager (or any co-workers) lessons by being worse at your job. Nothing helps your enemy more than your performance tanking. (View Highlight)
  • I’ve repeatedly seen engineers tank their own performance to teach their manager a lesson. (View Highlight)
  • No one is likely to benefit more from your excellent performance than you. (View Highlight)
  • The strongest deciding factor in any argument is extreme competence. (View Highlight)