Summary: It’s common to have conflicts with co-workers or managers at work. To improve these relationships, focus on having fact-based discussions rather than getting caught in opinions or complaints. Building connections and communicating your accomplishments can help counter negative perceptions and enhance your professional image.
If you talk in public, you (and them) are less likely to say unprofessional / rude things. And people will observe you being polite, which will help preserve your reputation. (View Highlight)
If you similarly set expectations and receive requests in public, you’re less likely to have purposeful or accidental wires crossed. (View Highlight)
Keeping your conversations in the open is your best defense against misinformation. (View Highlight)
Once you get on someone’s bad side, it’s easy for them to see everything you’re doing as not good enough. (View Highlight)
If you can help them remove their lens by insisting on a fact-based discussion, you have a shot of communicating better. I’ve seen poor relationships improve dramatically once they insisted on communicating with data. (View Highlight)
If you’re at odds with someone else, you don’t beat them by complaining about them behind their back. (View Highlight)
The worst thing you can do when someone is bad-mouthing you, is to engage with bad-mouthing as well. Your goal instead should be to make going low one-sided. (View Highlight)
You absolutely don’t teach your manager (or any co-workers) lessons by being worse at your job. Nothing helps your enemy more than your performance tanking. (View Highlight)
I’ve repeatedly seen engineers tank their own performance to teach their manager a lesson. (View Highlight)
No one is likely to benefit more from your excellent performance than you. (View Highlight)
The strongest deciding factor in any argument is extreme competence. (View Highlight)